Thinking that the chances of you getting your ex to come back to you are about as good as a snowball’s chances in Hades? Maybe — but maybe not. Let’s face it, on the scale of emotional hurts, a breakup is undoubtedly in the top tier. Even so, you have to learn to not let the pain of your separation drive you to do unwise things. Things which might erase any chances of you ever reuniting with your ex. Stop yourself from doing these foolish things with magic of making up. Instead, set about a sane course beginning with the four steps we will outline for you. These are designed to minimize the possiblity of your derailing the process and to maximize your chances of successfully winning back your love. First and foremost, do not communicate with him/her nearly as frequently as you did when you were still together. Cutting back severely on such communications with your ex may seem like a bad idea when you are committed to reviving the relationship, but it is probably the canniest thing you can do towards convincing your ex to return to you. Give him/her some space and time, get out of their face, jettison the texting and emails, in fact cease all forms of verbal intercourse, and give some time to think and, some thing to think about, for a few days.